From Taipei, Tucson and Toronto

My first Internet date over coffee felt like a job interview, hint to guys not a great idea to ask "where do you see yourself in 5 years?"  It seems so un-datelike.   Though I guess it's efficient.

Earlier this week I went out with someone who claimed to be a southern gentleman on business here from Dallas.  He turned out to be a f***ing lunatic and was the most bizarre dinner date of my life.  One of the waiters at Brix kindly offered to escort me to my car as both myself and the restaurant staff thought he might turn violent.  On a positive note,  I was impressed by Brix's professional and quick response to the whole affair. 

Not so sure this online dating thing is such a good idea.

The Nixon Library?

So now I'm trying a Christian site my aunt and uncle recommended.  It's questionable whether they're ready for the likes of me -- I've had several emails about the Chomsky reference in my profile :)  The men are definitely different from the other sites and I'm thrilled to see a large number of them have done or plan to do volunteer work in the third world.  That being said, it also has it's share of wing nuts, i.e. from profiles of some of the guys that contacted me:

• Looking for a "healthy woman with a yielding and pliable attitude"  -- Geez what era does this guy live in?  Maybe I should add Virgina Wolf or Rebecca West to my favorite authors list to deter this type of guy.
• Believes that  universities are a breeding ground for sinful activities -- Hmm, maybe didn't notice that I have a Master's degree.  Or maybe did ;)
• Thinks the perfect activity for a first date is a visit the Presidential Library  -- He doesn't say which one, but  he's in Huntington Beach so I assume it's one nearby, perhaps the Richard Nixon Library?  I love reading, but it seems a bit odd to go to a library on a date, particularly Nixon's.  However I suppose it would foster interesting conversation.

Although few are an appropriate match, there are a lot of wonderful men out there that have written me very earnest and heart-warming emails from all over the globe.  Predominately North American, some were from from Asia, Africa, South America, and Europe.  [It would be interesting to do a mashup and plot the cities with google maps.  Though I doubt the sites have open APIs to do this].   

In any event, according to Find a Husband  After 35, it's a "numbers game" and I'm over 2500 now so I'll keep with it a bit longer (and will buy some mace!)

 

Comments

[Alison A.]

Lori -- thought I'd drop into your blog and see how you're doing. Don't give up on the Internet dating -- I've known a couple of very successful hookups thus far! That being said, the Brix evening sounds scary.

Work is crazy right now, but I'll send you a note -- maybe we can hook up for lunch?

[Mother]

Lori,

Judging from your recent experience - stay away from anyone from Texas, particularly if they say they are southern gentlemen.

There has to be a spiritual, kindly, honest, gentle, intellectual, athletic gentleman on the West Coast.
Love Mum,